The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
副标题: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
ISBN: 9780609805794
出版社: Three Rivers Press
出版年: 2000-5
页数: 288
定价: 120.00元
装帧: Paperback
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Book Description
John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
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According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.
Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)
Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."
Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening.
--Erica Jorgensen
About Author
JOHN M. GOTTMAN, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and cofounder and codirector of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute.
Book Dimension :
length: (cm)20.5 width:(cm)13.3
作者简介
约翰?戈特曼
? 研究婚姻与家庭问题的最权威的科学家，西雅图婚姻与家庭研究所的负责人。
? 因在婚姻与家庭上作出的巨大贡献，他获得了许多知名奖项。
? 他根据长期研究结果，常年为婚姻治疗师以及婚姻有问题的夫妻举办讲习班。